Ask a survivor of an abusive relationship if loving their abuser changed their situation.
Ask a survivor of an abusive situation if “leading with love” made all the difference when that man got angry or hurt or wounded or insecure.
Ask a survivor or an abusive partner, if loving him made it easier or harder to leave.
As a survivor, if you want to know about the power of love against hatreds that are rooted in power and entitlement and selfishness and desire.
I loved my rapist. He still fucking raped me. I loved him long before he raped me, and for too long afterwards. For a long time I thought of him as my one true love—and he was hurting me the entire time.